Pasadena divorce lawyers want victims of domestic violence to know that they are not alone. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time in which advocacy groups seek to help raise awareness about the effects of domestic violence and encourage people in abusive relationships to seek help.
If you're thinking about leaving your abuser, it's essential to get a support system in place. Talk to friends and family that you can trust about what has been going on. Your support system can help with financial arrangements, finding a place to stay, and storing any important personal items you'll need when you leave, such as clothing and copies of papers like birth certificates and health insurance cards.
There's no such thing as too much support when you're escaping an abusive relationship, so it's smart to call local support agencies to learn about what help is available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233, has advocates available 24/7 to offer free, confidential assistance and support. They can answer general questions that you might have and direct you to specific local resources that can help you develop an escape plan. If you're worried about your abuser tracking your activities, keep in mind that a prepaid cell phone is an excellent tool for communicating with people who can help you plan to end your marriage.
Speak to an attorney to get a restraining order against your abuser. This will give you legal protection as you begin the process of ending your marriage. The restraining order will protect both you and any minor children that you have with your abuser. It can prevent your abuser from contacting you and order him to provide child support or pay your legal fees. The judge can order a police officer to accompany your abuser when he removes personal items from the home you share, if you are planning to remain in the marital home and want to prevent any confrontation during this time.
After you've left your abuser, consider seeking help from a professional therapist to rebuild your self confidence. Domestic violence can leave victims feeling hurt, scared, and unsure of their own abilities. When an abuser apologizes, it can be be tempting to try to give him one more chance. A therapist will help you stay strong and build a new future that you can be proud of.
How Can We Help?
If you have been the victim of domestic violence and need legal representation during your divorce, please call our office at (626) 683-8113 or email us at info@PasadenaLawOffice.com. Our experienced Pasadena family law attorneys can help resolve your case in a way that will keep both you and your children safe.