Tips for Negotiating Your Divorce


Negotiation is almost always a better alternative than litigation, if you're thinking of filing for divorce in Pasadena. Courtroom battles take time and money, which prevents you from moving on with the next phase of your life.

If you've decided to try negotiation by using the services of a professional mediator or by having each of your attorneys work together to create a cooperative divorce, here are some tips to keep in mind:

  • If you have children together, don't talk to them about your divorce. Don't vent about your ex to your child, even if you have teenagers. Your children don't want to hear about your marital problems and a judge won't look kindly on you badmouthing your ex if you do eventually end up in a courtroom.
  • Remember that a little compromise goes a long way. If something is important to your ex, such as a painting that his grandmother gave you as a wedding gift, don't fight to keep it out of spite. If you show that you're willing to compromise, you'll encourage your ex to do the same.
  • Try to put yourself in your ex's shoes. Even if you don't agree with your ex's point of view, attempting to understand where he or she is coming from will make it easier to come to a mutually agreeable settlement.
  • If you and your ex are still on fairly good terms, try to work out some of your issues privately. Anything you can come to an agreement on by yourselves is one less issue for your attorneys to debate.

Negotiating your divorce is not a sign of weakness. You're not being a pushover if you decide to negotiate instead of litigate. A negotiated divorce is:

  • Quicker
  • Less expensive
  • Less emotionally stressful
  • Protects your privacy
  • Sets a stage for a more positive co-parenting relationship, if you have children with your ex

How Can We Help?

Please call our office at (626) 683-8113 or email us at if you are in need of legal representation during your divorce. Our Pasadena divorce attorneys can handle a variety of concerns, including issues related to child custody, visitation, child support, spousal support, and the division of martial assets and/or debts.