October Is Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Do You Know How to Leave an Abusive Relationship?


Throughout the month of October, the National Network to End Domestic Violence and various community groups across the United States are working to educate the public about the dangers of abusive relationships.

It is estimated that one in four women will be the victim of domestic violence within her lifetime. High profile cases such as the scandal surrounding NFL star Ray Rice’s abuse of his wife Janay attract widespread media coverage, but domestic violence affects people of all races, ethnicities, ages, and incomes.

Women who are being abused must take special precautions while leaving the relationship, since the act of leaving can enrage an abusive spouse. Before you attempt to leave, put together a suitcase with clothes, necessary medication, important papers such as your passport and Social Security card, any evidence of the abuse that you have previously gathered, and cash, credit, or ATM cards. Look for ways to remove any dangerous weapons from the home, including guns and hunting knives. Instruct your neighbors to call the police if they hear any suspicious noises coming from your home. If you have children, make arrangements for them to stay with a trusted friend or family member.

It is a natural impulse to want to keep your marital problems private, but it’s important to be upfront with your attorney when you are filing for a Pasadena divorce. Your attorney's job is to advocate for your needs within the state’s family court system, but this can’t be done unless he or she has all of the relevant information. When you discuss your concerns with your attorney, he or she can help you file a restraining order, force your spouse out of the marital home, or seek full custody of your children.

If you need to speak to someone about local social services for domestic violence victims, call the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224. However, whenever you are in immediate danger, calling 911 is the best option.

How Can We Help?

Please call our office at (626) 683-8113 or email us at info@PasadenaLawOffice.com if youneed to speak to someone about divorcing an abusive spouse. Our Pasadena divorce attorneys are eager to advocate for your needs and help you move on with the next stage of your life.