How to Leave Your Cheating Spouse


Discovering that your spouse has had an affair is a devastating experience. Well meaning friends and family will offer lots of advice, but only you can decide if filing for a Pasadena divorce is the right way to handle the situation.

If you do decide that you want to leave your spouse, there are some things you should keep in mind to protect yourself. It's tempting to automatically tell your spouse you want out, but a little behind the scenes prep work can go a long way towards making sure you get the settlement you deserve.

The first step is to find a qualified family law attorney. Handling your own divorce is seldom a good idea, especially when the decision to end the marriage is caused by infidelity. An experienced divorce lawyer can act as your advocate without becoming emotionally involved in the case. Marriage is a leap of faith, but divorce is a business transaction that requires a clear head.

Once you've found an attorney, you need to handle your financial matters. Move half of your joint funds into an account that only you have access to. Cut off access to credit cards that you share. Order a copy of your credit report as well as your spouse's credit report. Cheaters often have hidden accounts that they use to finance their indiscretions. Keep copies of all of the information you find to give to your lawyer as evidence.

Finally, surround yourself with a support network. Divorcing is never easy and people often have moments where they waiver on their decision to follow through with the split. You need people who will listen to your feelings and help you stay strong as you begin the next chapter of your life.

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