Tips for Domestic Violence Victims Who Want to File for Divorce


Victims of domestic violence have special considerations when they are seeking divorce advice in Pasadena. Before they can attend to their legal needs, they must first make arrangements to ensure their safety.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, you should make a safety plan before telling your spouse that you want a divorce. A safety plan is a list of things you can do to protect yourself from an attack by your spouse. For example:

  • If you have a job, open a savings account in your own name. The Safe at Home program gives you a free P.O. box for receiving mail so your spouse does not need to know about the account.
  • Leave important items at a friend or family member's home. This includes your keys, identifying documents, necessary medications and cash, as well as clothing and other personal items.
  • Ask the court for a protective order against your spouse.
  • Make arrangements for where you are going to stay before telling your spouse you are leaving.
  • Have someone nearby when you tell your spouse you are leaving so you can get out as soon as possible.
  • If you have children, teach them what they need to do to stay safe. Talk to their teachers or daycare providers to make sure they are not allowed to leave with your abuser.
  • If you are working, tell the security personnel at your workplace about your plan to file for divorce and give them a picture of the person you need protection from.
  • You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for more tips or help in locating resources in your area.

Going through a divorce is always a trying time. For victims of domestic violence, it can also be a dangerous time.

How Can We Help?

If you are a victim of domestic violence who is planning to file for divorce, please contact our office at (626) 683-8113 or email us at Our experienced Pasadena matrimonial attorneys can advocate for your best interests as you take the first steps towards rebuilding your life.