As a noncustodial parent, you might find that celebrating holidays with your children after a Pasadena divorce is especially difficult. However, there are a few things you can do to make this time easier for both you and your children.
First, be flexible in your planning. If you are on good terms with your ex, getting together for the holidays is a great idea. Many divorced parents make an effort to celebrate holidays together, even going so far as to invite their new partners to the celebration. If you can't handle this, focus on doing what is necessary to make your child happy. If your child wants to spend the holiday with his or her other parent, respect your child's wishes even if your custody agreement technically says it's your "turn" for a visit. If your ex asks for a slight modification in the visitation schedule so your child can see his or her grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins over the holidays, try to accommodate the request.
Second, don't feel as though you need to replicate old family traditions exactly. Even young children understand that divorce is the beginning of a new chapter in the family's life. Mark this new beginning by creating new traditions that reflect your current circumstances.
Finally, avoid spoiling your child. It can be tempting to make up for not being able to spend time with your children by buying them lavish gifts. But, children do not need material possessions as much as they need the love and affection of their parents. Overindulging a child, whether or not you are divorced, is a bad idea. Focus on making memories with your kids when you are with them and try to stay in touch through email, phone calls, or Skype when you can't be together.
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