Signs You're Dealing with a Difficult Ex


Many people who are researching divorce laws in Pasadena want to know how long it will take to have their divorce finalized. Unfortunately, the answer to this question depends a lot on how eager your ex is to settle in a rational fashion. A difficult ex can slow down the process significantly.

How can you tell if you might be dealing with a difficult ex? If you were the one who asked for a divorce, your ex might try to drag out the process as long as possible as a form of revenge or simply in the hope that you'll eventually change your mind and decide to give the marriage another chance. This strategy seems to be quite common among people who were left because their spouse was having an affair.

If your ex insisted on controlling all of the family finances during your marriage, be prepared to deal with the same controlling attitude in the courtroom. For many people, the need to have financial control is closely related to a need for power. Also, anyone who is micromanaging your budget to make sure every penny is spent accounting to his or her personal beliefs is going to place a high priority on getting as large a divorce settlement as possible.

If your ex suffers from mental issues such as depression, severe anxiety, or trouble managing anger, keep in mind that a fragile emotional state can wreak havoc on an attempt to have a logical, reasonable divorce. Even if you're being completely fair in the negotiation process, your ex may still fight you every step of the way. You will need the best attorney you can find to get through this type of divorce, but you might also want to consider consulting a psychologist who can help you understand the root of your ex's perplexing behaviors.

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