Debunking Divorce Myths


If you're thinking about filing for divorce in Pasadena, don't believe everything you hear. Falling for common divorce myths can make your split much more difficult than it needs to be.

Myth #1: It takes two to get married and two to get divorced. Contrary to popular belief, you don't need your spouse's permission to get divorced. When one person is committed to leaving, there's no way to "save" the marriage no matter how hard you try.

Myth #2: Divorce is always messy. There is no "typical" divorce. Many couples do end up bitterly fighting throughout the process of ending their marriage, but plenty of people manage to divorce and remain civil. If you and your spouse are committed to having an amicable divorce, there's no reason you can't end your marriage but still stay on friendly terms. Divorce, like marriage, is what you make of it.

Myth #3: Divorce will ruin your kids. This myth is closely related to the view that all divorces are filled with anger and tension. If you and your spouse can find a way to put aside your differences and be cooperative co-parents after the divorce, your children will be just fine.

Myth #4: Divorce doesn't hurt the person who leaves. Ending your marriage brings up all sorts of emotions, even if you're the one who decided to call it quits. Even if you're divorcing your spouse because of his or her abuse or addiction, it's perfectly normal to feel conflicted about your decision. Counseling can help you deal with these emotions in a constructive way.

Myth #5: Divorce means your life is over. This is perhaps the biggest divorce myth of all. Your marriage might be over, but that's just one chapter of your life. Your future holds endless potential. You can move across the country, start a new business, find a new hobby, and/or meet someone who is your new Mr./Ms. Right. What you do next is entirely up to you.

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