What to Look Out For
You may have noticed small things throughout your marriage that have sent signals hinting at something off about your partner. If those signs have become more apparent or have shown themselves more often, it may be time to reflect on the person you are with and what they are really like. The more they demonstrate certain behaviors, the more likely you may actually be with a narcissist.
Conversations Revolve Around Them
Narcissists’ favorite topic of discussion is themselves, so they will take every opportunity possible to dominate a conversation in favor of inflating their sense of self-importance. You may also find yourself cut off mid-sentence in order for the spouse to resume talking. If you start noticing that all discussions gradually trend toward talking about the spouse or you can’t get a word in, then chances are that the spouse is displaying some narcissistic tendencies.
Everything Is About Them
Narcissists believe they are the center of the universe and that everything is ultimately about them. They crave attention, believe they are entitled, and will base every decision they make around their preferences without allowing you the chance to express your opinion. In a sense, it is “their way or no other way.”
Overstepping Boundaries and Using People
One of the classic traits of narcissists is their inability to maintain personal boundaries and their exploitation of people for personal gain. You might notice your spouse borrowing money or items without returning them or breaking promises or agreements without any remorse at all.
Feelings of Isolation and a Lack of Control
If you start to feel alone because of your spouse’s negligence or self-importance, chances are you may have a more serious problem on your hands. Many people whose partner is a narcissist report feeling a lack of control in their life because of the partner. Your spouse may take steps to cut you off from friends and family or assert control over important things such as finances.
Taking Back Your Life
If you find that your partner is displaying signs of narcissism, understand that you don’t have to remain unhappy in that relationship. You can take back control of your life, and one of the first ways to do this is to contact a Pasadena divorce advocate ready to help you start the divorce. Schweitzer Law Partners puts clients first and works to meet their needs throughout the entirety of the process.
Call our Pasadena office today at (626) 788-5225 or visit us online to schedule an appointment with one of our attorneys.