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Tactics to Use When Divorcing a Narcissist

Fighting Back Against a Narcissist

Dealing with a narcissist during a divorce can be difficult, as many of these individuals will likely use dirty tricks in a divorce to either get ahead or get even. Their desire to win at all costs for their ego’s sake can make an already stressful situation even more exhausting. However, there are steps that you can take in order to better arm yourself against their tactics and to help you remain calm in the face of adversity.

Understand What to Expect

Rarely is divorce ever easy, and this chance decreases drastically when your spouse is a narcissist. One of the smartest ways to prepare for your divorce is to consider what may happen throughout the process. It is very unlikely that your narcissistic spouse will want to come to the negotiation table, so knowing that a lengthy court battle is likely can help you mentally throughout the proceedings.

Protect Yourself At All Costs

A narcissist may do whatever it takes to get inside your head and make your life miserable throughout your divorce. Rather than struggle with these feelings of depression and anxiety, protect yourself by taking action to limit interaction with your spouse. Set boundaries related to interactions with your spouse and what you’re willing to listen to throughout the divorce. Keep these boundaries to protect your mental health.

Arm Yourself With Evidence

One of the most important steps you can take to protect yourself throughout your case is to document any interaction with your spouse. Lying is a common practice among narcissists, so making sure to note conversations with your spouse via text or email can arm you with evidence that may prove to be valuable in court should you have reason to use it.

Build a Support Team Centered Around an Attorney

Having a support network made up of your closest family and friends that can listen to you and defend you against your spouse’s attacks is important. Your spouse may try to spread lies about you to your circle of trusted people, so notifying them in advance of your divorce and your reasons for doing so can protect you from that potential harm.

In addition, a divorce attorney capable of defending you against the tactics of a narcissist can make a big impact on both your case and your mental health. Knowing that your case is in the hands of someone who is putting your best interests at the forefront of the proceeding can bring great peace of mind.


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