Visitation Tips for Noncustodial Parents


If you're a noncustodial parent, there are a few tips you should keep in mind as you're planning visitations after your Pasadena divorce.

If your child is very young, remember that kids thrive when they have a consistent schedule. Occasional changes might be unavoidable due to your work hours or a sudden illness, but you should try to stick to a schedule as much as possible. Failing to show up for a promised visit will make your child question your loyalty. If you need to change the schedule, take the time to call your child and personally explain the situation.

Try to avoid packing too many activities into the visitation time. Children need time to relax and decompress. If you're planning a visit to Grandma's house and a big family dinner on Friday, consider spending a quiet night at home watching a movie or playing a board game on Saturday.

Children don't necessarily need to have their own rooms at a noncustodial parent's home, but they should have a space where they feel safe and comfortable. Even something as simple as picking out special bedding and comfy pillows can help make a child feel welcome.

As children get older, it's natural that friends from school will become a bigger part of their lives. You may want to consider occasionally allowing a friend from school to accompany your child on visitation. Making an effort to get to know your child's friends shows that you're still interested in being an active part of his or her life.

If you've started dating again, be cautious about introducing you child to a new romantic partner. You don't want your child to get attached to someone who might not be around in a few months. If the relationship is serious, it's a good idea to inform the custodial parent that your new partner will be taking part in the visitation before introducing him or her to your child

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