How to Regain Trust After Divorce


Loss of trust is a significant contributor to divorce in Pasadena. If you decided to end your marriage because of infidelity or issues related to lying, it’s understandable to be suspicious of your ex’s motivations post-divorce. However, you will need to find a way to rebuild trust in order to be successful co-parents to your children.

In a marriage, it’s natural for spouses to fall into the habit of not minding their manners. Unfortunately, this type of behavior is not acceptable once you're divorced. When you’re around your ex, strive to model the sort of well mannered behavior you encourage your children to display. Say “please” and “thank you” when appropriate. Be considerate of your ex’s time. Listen when your ex is talking, even if you don’t agree with what is being said. Hopefully this mindfulness will be reciprocated.

When you’re angry, remember that a little restraint goes a long way. Resist the urge to snap at your ex or to say unkind things about your ex in front of the children. Take the moral high ground. You can vent to a trusted friend later, if needed.

Remember that it’s possible for someone to be both a terrible spouse and a loving parent. Encourage your ex to maintain a relationship with your children. Share kind words they've said about their time with him or her, or point out positive things you've noticed after visitation. Work together to resolve key disciplinary issues with the children instead of having just one parent make all of the decisions.

If you make a mistake and behave poorly, apologize for your actions. You and your ex are not adversaries. You are both working together to raise your children.

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